How To Talk To Your Family About Your Funeral Wishes (Without Making It Awkward)

Let’s be honest - starting a conversation about funeral wishes can feel awkward. Most people worry they’ll upset their loved ones or sound morbid. In reality, families are often relieved when the topic is approached thoughtfully.

Here are a few ways to make the conversation easier.

• Choose the Right Moment

  This doesn’t need to happen during a crisis. A calm, everyday moment - after dinner, during a walk, or while updating other life plans - works best.

• Start With Your “Why”

  Try something simple…”I’ve been thinking about how I can make things easier for you someday.” That framing shifts the conversation from death to care.

• Share, Don’t Demand

  You’re not asking for approval - you’re sharing your wishes. Invite questions and reassure your family that the goal is clarity, not control.

•  Put It In Writing

  Verbal conversations help, but written plans remove doubt. A pre-need plan ensures everyone is on the same page. Families often tell me later, “I’m so glad we talked about this.” That relief alone is worth the conversation.